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Day 01 – Introduce yourself
Day 02 – Your first love, in great detail
Day 03 – Your parents, in great detail
Day 04 – What you ate today, in great detail
Day 05 – Your definition of love, in great detail
Day 06 – Your day, in great detail
Day 07 – Your best friend, in great detail
Day 08 – A moment, in great detail
Day 09 – Your beliefs, in great detail
Day 10 – What you wore today, in great detail
Day 11 – Your siblings, in great detail
Day 12 – What’s in your bag, in great detail
Day 13 – This week, in great detail
Day 14 – What you wore today, in great detail
Day 15 – Your dreams, in great detail
Day 16 – Your first kiss, in great detail
Day 17 – Your favorite memory, in great detail
Day 18 – Your favorite birthday, in great detail
Day 19 – Something you regret, in great detail
Day 20 – This month, in great detail
Day 21 – Another moment, in great detail
Day 22 – Something that upsets you, in great detail
Day 23 – Something that makes you feel better, in great detail
Day 24 – Something that makes you cry, in great detail
Day 25 – A first, in great detail
Day 26 – Your fears, in great detail
Day 27 – Your favorite place, in great detail
Day 28 – Something that you miss, in great detail
Day 29 – Your aspirations, in great detail
Day 30 – One last moment, in great detail

I'm going to do this based off of yesterday so I can move forward with the list, and then I'm going to do Day 5 for today.

Yesterday, I didn't eat a whole heck of a lot because my stomach was pretty much in multiple knots for most of the day. After the divorce hearing, my sister, Kate and I went out for lunch at Cheeseburger in Paradise. That was, basically, the first thing I ate all day. I nibbled a bit on a blueberry muffin yesterday morning, but didn't eat much of it.

At Cheeseburger, I got my two favorite types of food in one sandwich: sweet and spicy. :) It was a sweet fire chicken sandwich and it had a sweet and spicy sauce with green peppers and some other yummy such bits on top of marinated chicken on an interesting bun. I also got some sweet potato chips (those are sooo good) to help cool my mouth down when the spice got to be a bit too strong. :) Normally, Cheeseburger is my favorite place for a frozen concoction, but since I hadn't eaten all day, had to drive, and needed to hydrate, I just had a coke. :P Hopefully I'll go back there before the summer ends and sit out on their terrace drinking some yummy fruity drink.

Last night, I had my staple dinner for when my father is away: french bread pizza and a mountain dew. I didn't push myself to eat anything else because my stomach was still untangling itself from its earlier knotted form. Not much I can really say about french bread pizza other than it was pepperoni...

My definition of love in great detail. Ironic that this comes around right as my divorce is finally coming to completion. Well, first off, I think that love comes in many different forms. I think there's the obvious one, romantic love, where two people fall in love over time and pursue a relationship. But there's also familial love, friend love and even, in some respect, love for our enemies. And what I mean by that is that, even though we may hate someone, the hateful feeling we have towards that person isn't the opposite of love, it's a part of it. The opposite of love, to me, is indifference.

I've been reading a book, sort of a "self help" book, called the "5 languages of love." There's two I bought: one for children, one for spouses or other adult romantic relationships. In the books, they talk about the 5 languages of love being "Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gifts and Quality Time." Each person, according to the book, needs all of these languages of love to be spoken in their lives, but each person also has one language of love they prefer. The book gives ideas on how to discover that language of each person you love in your life so as to fill their "love tank" as they call it. In the children's book, the author points out that children under 5 do not have a primary love language yet, so it is important to give equal amounts of the different languages. Filling our loved one's love tanks, and having them fill ours, is supposed to help improve relationships. And I think this is true. If we don't feel loved or appreciated by our loved ones, our relationships tend to deteriorate.

These are, of course, ways to show love, but as to what love means to me, it means deep care, affection and emotional attachment to the people close to me. It means sometimes putting their needs ahead of ours and making sacrifices to meet those needs as necessary. But that doesn't mean that we always put our needs on the back burner because, as we've all heard before, to truly find love outside, we first have to find it inside, by loving ourselves. Love means accepting people as they are, faults and all, and working with them as they are, without attempting to change them unless they want help in changing. It's not "settling," it's accepting, acknowledging, that no one is perfect, and in that respect, no love is perfect. We're only human and we all have frailties and faults that color our emotions and reactions to things. That's one issue I have with those verses in the bible that everyone always has read at their weddings from Corinthians. "Love is never boastful or rude, etc etc etc" True, perfect love is like that, I'm sure, but as humans, that's a perfect love that, while it is noble and right to try and follow that, it's not really possible because we are emotional creatures and we do get angry and hurt and upset. That does not make our love any less true or good. To me, it makes it better than the perfect love that bit in the bible talks about, because even when love hurts, we never stop loving, and that, in turn, evolves our love.
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